Okay, I love kids! And I have always wanted my own someday (and still do) but after the whole experience with my sister there are some things that I am just not okay with....
1. Epidurals don't work???!!! - my sister got one and (though she does have a low tolerance for pain) she still complained of major pain and looked like she was going to die, really, someone needed to put her out of her misery! I mean that is supposed to be our saving grace, isn't it? Now what?
2. 20+ hours of labor and then having a C-section.... I mean honestly, we could have shaved off at least 16 - 18 of those and still had the same outcome. No reason to make the mother suffer. Why can't you schedule a C-section from the start (which I just recently found out that you can't) ... They do produce MUCH prettier newborns with their beautifully shaped heads. I understand that it is major surgery and all but so is passing an 8 lb baby through your hoohaa! I don't know about you but I might opt for the stitches on my belly than stitches down below!
3. Even though everyone witnessed a miracle, hanging around very much sleep deprived family is no fun. It brings out the worst in them.... one of them was even trying to draw on my face with a marker for goodness sake. No thank you!
4. It is crap that the birthing/labor process is not hereditary! We really thought my sister (and me for that matter) would take after my mom who with both of us was in labor under an hour in time and three weeks early so we were small, about 4 - 5 lbs, therefore not as much damage. But NO, nothing even close! (now I am not promoting premature babies but my sis and I were preemies and we turned out great!)
5. Breast feeding is not natural... at least not any more. And when I say "natural" I mean instinctual, as it should come easy... and it does not. (don't get me wrong, I am a fan and think it is great for the baby) I think we, as humans, must have bred out our natural instinct! It should NOT be that hard! I work with animals and it comes easy and natural to them... but try watching a new mother and infant trying to get the hang of it.... it take about 3 people assisting them to get started. It is so frustrating to watch when you think it should just be a matter of latch on and go.
.... So I just might be adopting. Time will tell if I will ever be ready for such a thing. But as you can tell, that day is not today. As for now, I am happy being an AUNT :-)
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HAHAHA, Gina!!! You make me laugh.... Don't give up hope yet. 1) Both my epidurals worked GREAT and was worth it. 2) Healing time sucks yes, either way I am sure but shorter healing time for vagianl birth. 3) Breastfeeding is tough, it takes a good solid month to get it down. It saves you soooooo much money and yes is healthier for baby, and helps mommy loose weight too! OK, enough of my input. I love you and thanks for making me laugh!
I try! I love that you are so honest with me... you always were throughout your pregnancies. Do you remember me asking you all sorts of questions!
You are too funny!!! You gave me a good laugh too...
I know that each person has their own delivery story, but I would much rather have a vaginal birth then a c-section any day. My Melissa, with Dallas, had absolutely no drugs at all and delivered a 9lb baby!! It was so amazing to watch her. She was completely recovered after a few days and she was able to hold Dallas as soon as she had him. I would have done anything to have had that opportunity. All I can say is an emergency c-section equally sucked to your sisters forever labor. Instead of being in labor for 18 hours I didn't get to even see my babies for 18 hours! Talk about being in all that pain and not even getting to see the reward. Preemies with iv's in their heads and being hooked up to more wires than an electric box, along with the fear of not being certain that they will live another day is about one of the hardest things you can experience. I also wasn't even really given the option to nurse because breast milk didn't have enough calories compared to the preemie formula AND yes it is horribly exspensive. Towards the end we were going through a can a day at a cost of $20 per can, roughly $500 per month.
BUT that is why God designs it so you forget; because once it is all said and done and you have a precious baby (or babies)you realize that no matter how ugly or painful the whole process is you have the most beautiful gift that God could bless any humanbeing with, one of His children. You (eventually) realize that you have truly experienced one of lifes biggest miracles no matter what form it comes in and you just wish that you could hold on to those baby years just a little longer. They really pass more quickly than you could ever imagine.
you crazy girl. i think I might make you come to my delivery in hopes to convert your ideas into more positive ones.
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